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Being Had
By C.E. White 1-16-02

For women," being had" only occurs during the physical contact of sex … and that’s where they falter … for it’s not what women believe " being had" is … it’s what men believe… AND men literally have had woman just from seeing her flesh … any part that is a sexual part of her … from having a totally nude view of a woman from all angles to a totally nude cheek of a woman’s buttocks or even just the cheek peeking out of the bottom of her shorts. It can be a complete view of both of her breasts, one breast, or just cleavage. A bikini or one piece bathing suit, shorty shorts, a halter top with no bra on, breasts poking out through a skin tight shirt, just a skin tight shirt, skin tight jeans.…. and much more.

It doesn’t matter whether a woman or women agree with this or not … the truth is she’s "been had" if she has exposed herself in any of the fashions listed above.

This is confirmed when Jesus says that a man has committed adultery when he looks at a woman with lust in his heart.

Paul goes further to prove the need for woman not to be scantily clad when he says she is to wear loose fitting clothes…..

Men are drawn to the "shape" as much or even more than to the flesh it self! In fact, more times than not, if a man sees the shape of a woman in skin tight or skimpy apparel, he is almost slightly disappointed in the completely nude view because it just doesn’t have the a same appeal as it did when it was clothed .. even the most perfect female .. if the complete shape has been revealed ... when in this same said skin tight or skimpy apparel … it’s just not as appealing.  However; if the first time a man sees the shape is when she is nude ... meaning married… he is usually even more stimulated and thinks that she looks even better than he imagined….

A woman who exposes her body in any of the fashions listed above is in reality the worst kind of woman.

Many women believe that you can be an upstanding woman of class if you dress in fashion, no matter what it is, as long as you don’t commit the physical sexual act …Well that isn’t true … if a woman shakes her body, in any form or fashion, in front of a man or men and the man or men has lust in his heart … since he /they have committed adultery … the woman is an adulteress!

Fashion is no excuse … fashion does not change the physical laws of sex …. Fashion does not remove the females adulteress role … fashion is just another forbidden fruit from the Garden of Eden … that the devil has deceived and seduced the female into believing it is a good thing.

Paul also talks about vanity and woman is not supposed to feed her vanity … not all … but ….

And men … have taken no responsibility. They do not realize it is their responsibility as fathers, brothers, uncles, and husbands to protect women from this forbidden fruit … but guess what … they bite of it every time they look and do not chastise .. They bite from it every time they allow their wife, sister, or daughter to appear in front of men, other than their husbands, dressed as described above …

How a woman dresses is critically important.  Women's bodies and exposure to society at large is one of the top 3 major influences on our morality.  It actually is probably number 1. With money and acceptable responsible speech being the other 2.  Many would say sex itself is one of the top 3 and I say that a woman's body is sex!

The more scantily clad women are, the worse our morals are ... no, ifs, ands, or ....

Men who allow any woman, that they have influence over, appear outside of their home, or in many cases their bedrooms, dressed improperly, should be relentlessly chastised.  This includes elders, deacons, ministers, etc that allow women to walk into the church in any appropriate fashion.

Women who are left to their own devices are perpetually seduced by fashion....

There should be a dressed code posted in the foyer of all churches.  This dress code should strictly adhere to GOD's word.

 Can you imagine, GOD saying dress this way ... and a woman or women .... walking into HIS house of worship.... violating HIS will? HIS commandments?  JESUS says, "If you love me you will keep my commandments."

AND the MEN, in the woman's family or leaders of her church, are so weak that they allow it??

WE CANNOT PICK & CHOOSE WHAT SCRIPTURES or better yet, WHAT "COMMANDMENTS" we follow.

You know … we must really be stupid .. thousands of years later and the devil uses the exact same thing on us over and over and over and over and …..

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